Why Your Instagram Is Keeping You Single (and Losing the Hottest Girls)
You don’t have a dating problem. You have a funnel problem. Let’s fix it.
You’ve done everything right.
You’ve built a great life. You’ve put in the work. You’ve carved out success in your career. Not to mention you take care of your body, your style, and your mindset. You’re not the same guy you were five years ago—and thank God for that. But still, the one area that feels frustratingly out of reach?
Dating women you’re actually excited about.
Not just nice girls. Not just okay dates. I mean the girls you really want—the hot ones, the ones with energy, presence, ambition. The kind of girl who turns heads when she walks into a room.
Most guys I work with come to me saying the same thing:
“I want to date hotter girls and I don’t know why I’m not.”
And they mean it. They’ve done the hard work. They’re smart, self-aware, and emotionally intelligent. But they’re missing one key skill set.
Not because they’re lazy. But because they never needed it—until now.
The skill? Knowing how to present yourself online in a way that actually attracts the type of woman you want to date.
That’s it. That’s the piece no one ever taught you. And the truth is—it’s nearly impossible to see yourself clearly from the outside. You can crush it in business. You can sell a product, build a team, run a company. But when it comes to marketing yourself in a way that pulls in high-value women?
That’s where most guys fall flat.
This is why don’t have a dating problem. You have a funnel problem.
What’s a dating funnel?
It’s the invisible system every guy is using—whether he realizes it or not. It’s how women go from noticing you… to wanting to date you. And it doesn’t matter where you meet her—online or in real life—it all flows into the same funnel.
Here’s how it works:
• Top of funnel: You match on a dating app. Or you meet her at a party, a concert, a friend’s dinner. Doesn’t matter. The next move is almost always the same—she looks you up.
• Middle of funnel: She lands on your Instagram. This is where she verifies the spark. She wants to know: Are you who I think you are? Do I feel something when I scroll? Is this a guy I could actually see myself with?
• Bottom of funnel: She responds to your story. She texts you back. She says yes to the date.
That’s the funnel. And if anything is off—your photos, your style, your vibe, your presence—it quietly breaks the system. No second date. No reply. No momentum. And 9 times out of 10, the break happens on Instagram.
Now if you’re realizing for the first time how important your Instagram is, you’re probably trying to piece together a strategy by yourself. But here’s what usually happens: you add 1 or 2 new posts to your feed, second guess everything a week later, then you never post again.
And it always ends the same way:
No traction. No real momentum. Just more mid matches and dry convos. Because what you actually need is a system. A formula that shows you exactly what to post, how to build attraction visually, and how to turn your IG into your biggest asset—not a liability.
That’s exactly what we fix inside Instagram Revival. It’s my 7-day strategy to transform your IG into the most attractive version of you. We start with the aesthetic reset—clean photos, better vibe, elevated style.
Then we layer in the subtle signals girls are scanning for: confidence, lifestyle, presence. You’ll look like the guy who has it together, without trying too hard. And suddenly? The girls who used to scroll past… start paying attention.
Because the truth is, most guys are losing the hottest girls before the first DM. Not because they aren’t hot enough or successful enough—but because their IG doesn’t show it. Right now, your profile might be saying “he’s fine.” Let’s make it say “she’d be lucky.”
Enrollment for Instagram Revival is now open.
See you there,
x Lisa ⚡
About Lisa Rosen: The dating strategist behind the guys every girl is obsessed with. I teach presence, style, and energy: the quiet signals that pull hot, high-value women in. The Vibe Check shows smart, successful men how to fix the one part of their life that’s holding them back—dating. Because once you get this right, everything else gets better.