How to Make a First Date So Good, She Can’t Stop Thinking About You
Why the guys who put in the least amount of effort get the biggest results—and how to steal their playbook.
*Pssst. This Vibe Check comes with audio. You’ll hear Lisa read the whole post—because some things hit different when you listen. Dive in before your next first date… and make sure she’s thinking about you long after the night ends.
I remember meeting this guy at a bar. We talked for a few minutes, he got my number, and we made plans to go out—and I was super excited, but then? He made the rookie mistake: He took me to dinner.
And you already know my stance on this. But now you’re really going to learn why. At first? It was fun. The chemistry was still there, and the drinks were flowing. But then… it stalled. The dinner started to feel long.
The waiter disappeared. The kitchen was backed up. We had already talked about everything in the first 90 minutes—and there was still food coming. It took 20 minutes just to get the check, which left us with tons of awkward silences. It was brutal.
This poor guy couldn’t catch a break. But he clearly wanted to salvage the date, and I was game. I wanted to feel that same rush I felt when I first met him. So we walked to a bar across the street to get another drink: It was closed.
No big deal. We took an Uber to another spot.
But by then? I already knew this wasn’t going to end well. It was late, we both had work in the morning, and at this point? I was dying to get home—not dying to see him again. And the problem wasn’t just dinner.
It was that he picked a place he had never been. We were in an area that he didn’t know. He had never been to the restaurant. He didn’t know the spots around it. And suddenly? The guy I thought was so cool at the bar… now looked clueless.
Here’s Why This Happens to So Many Guys
Most guys don’t realize they’re making the first date harder than it needs to be. They either try too hard (they over-plan, over-invest, overcompensate) or play it too safe without understanding what actually builds attraction.
But the guys who win? They create a date that pulls her into their world. That’s why the cool guy never struggles with attraction. He’s playing from the right playbook.
Inside this post, I’m giving you:
✅ The exact date format that instantly builds attraction.
✅ How to set the scene, so she’s instantly drawn to you.
✅ What to do instead of dinner—and why most guys are getting this 100% wrong.
If you’re still stuck in the cycle of over-planning, over-investing, or playing it too safe, this post is your fix. Upgrade to unlock the full playbook—and when you join, you’ll get your Hinge + IG personally reviewed by me every month. ⬇️