Ask Lisa: “I’m 5’2”—Do I Even Have a Shot?”
If you’ve been overthinking your first dates, IG strategy, or whether to shoot your shot, this one’s for you.
The Vibe Check is where I break down modern dating in a way no one else will. No clichés. No outdated advice. Just real strategy—straight from the source. Because why would you play by old rules, when you could rewrite the game?
Somewhere right now, a guy is overthinking his Hinge profile. Another is debating whether to text the girl from last weekend. And one of you is mentally drafting a message to your bartender, even though she just told you she’s still into her ex.
I get it. Dating is a game of strategy, and you don’t want to make the wrong move. But you’re making this way harder than it needs to be. That’s why we’re here. Attraction is a formula. Once you get it right, every move after that becomes simple.
This week, I’m answering five of your biggest questions—from short guys, to first dates, to Instagram fixes, and the one thing you should never do when you really like a girl. Here we go:
1. Do you have any advice for short guys? I’m 5’2” and it’s been tough for me on dating apps.
The biggest flex is owning your insecurity. The guys who win don’t try to “compensate” for their height—they turn it into their strength. When I was in college, there was a guy who was 5’3” and exclusively dated models. He had great style, a vintage motorcycle, and a signature aesthetic that made him impossible to forget.
The key is refining your presence. Women care about how you carry yourself, not just your height. And to a girl under 5’3”, you’re already taller than her. Many girls prefer shorter guys. You’re someone’s exact type—you just have to believe it first.
2. She watches my stories but didn’t reply to my DM. What do I do?
Easy. Stop thinking of story views as secret signals. A girl watching your stories doesn’t mean she’s waiting for you to DM her. It just means you popped up in her feed. But if you want her to engage? Your IG needs to give her something to respond to first.
Try this: Post a new natural wine bar on your story with no location tag. You’ll have 5 hot girls in your DM’s asking where this is. Reply 3 hours later. You’re rarely on your phone these days.
3. I’m planning a high-stakes first date and I don’t want to look like every other guy. Should we do an activity?
Nope. A first date isn’t about being “different”—it’s about building attraction. You want her to see you in your element, not on a random “fun” activity like mini golf or bowling. The first date isn’t where you impress her—it’s where you make her feel like she stepped into your world.
Want the exact first date playbook that changes the game? It’s here:
4. I went on a date with a girl I really like. She mentioned she wants to start going to more movies. Should I plan a movie for our next date?
No. A movie date is a *boyfriend move*, not a second or third date. Your first few dates should build attraction, tension, and movement—not have you sitting in silence for 2.5 hours in a dark room. Bright lobby lights, popcorn machines, and zero conversation aren’t the vibe. Save the movie for when you’re already dating. Right now, focus on creating chemistry.
5. I’m in love with this girl who works at my favorite bar. We have flirty banter every time I go, but she mentioned she’s still into her ex. Should I still ask her out?
She already told you where she stands. If you ask her out now, you’re automatically putting yourself in second place. Instead, stop giving her so much attention and start bringing other hot girls to the bar.
If she actually likes you, that’s when she’ll quickly change her mind—because suddenly, you’re not just the guy who flirts with her, you’re the guy she might lose. And by that time? You’ll have better options.
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Until then—keep your moves sharp and your game dialed.
x Lisa ⚡️
About Lisa Rosen: High-status dating is all about knowing how to move. The Vibe Check gives you the ultimate edge in attraction, style, and presence—so you become the guy women actually want. Think of it as the cheat code to getting the girl—without chasing, overthinking, or trying too hard.